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Lost Rites and the Community of Grief

November 3 2022 @ 11:00 am - November 6 2022 @ 3:00 pm

€370 – €645

Remembering the Way

With Death Doula Alexandra Derwen and apprentice Death Doula Tanya Bryan

November 3 – November 6 2022

The premise of the “community of grief” is that Grief itself is a force for community cohesion and repair, whatever our personal stories of loss, it is in the shared circle space that the potential for alchemy and amplification of the healing process takes place. If you feel moved and called to this work then you belong here. We do ask that people come with open hearts ready to participate with curiosity and courage, but most importantly just bring your broken human selves and the circle itself will hold you.

The pathways of return have become overgrown by tangled briars after centuries of the Ways being forgotten. The outward paths seem clear. The paths of individuation and self realisation stand stark but we grew up initiated only by the Void and when we turned around we could no longer see the way Home. We are exiles. The pathways of return are yearning to be remembered – they are the pathways of the ancient stories, the tales of elders, the spirit of community. They are the pathways of connection through shared catharsis and celebration. Connection not only to our human community but to the longing voices of Land, Place and Space. The threads are bare but ready, let us weave together those pathways, within us first – then together where grief, mourning and embodied lament unclothe us of our heavy armour and re-clothe us in fine silks of freedom.

Tanya and Alexandra bring their friendship, balance, shared passion for sounding and lament, griefwork and earth-based practice together.


Bunk Room (with 3 or 4 people) €460 per person
Standard Price – shared twin room €495 per person
En Suite – shared twin room €555 per person
Camping price in the Song House garden €390 per person
Non-residential price €370 per person (includes all meals)
Single Room €645 per person

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Alexandra Derwen

Alexandra Derwen

Alexandra (they/them): is a griefkeeper and weaver of words, an explainer of things, a servant of ceremony (not a master) and a student of Death itself. The founder and lead facilitator of an End of Life doula preparation course for many years now it was during the lockdowns of 2020 that Alexandra was asked by circumstances to start to write more and create more opportunities for Death and Grief to teach us. This invitation gave rise to their first book Lost Rites: Ceremony and Ritual for Death and Dying (with an accompanying course) and then in early 2022 Alexandra finished the second Lost Rites book “Community of Grief” due for publication Autumn 2022. Alexandra presents as a very ordinary human being but their gifts really do lie in group facilitation of shared catharsis, weaving song, sound and silence into ceremony and drawing out the joy, the healing and the full range of human love that is to be found in having the courage to weep.

Learn more about Alexandra from their recent interview on the Song House podcast – on the Song House podcast

Tanya Bryan

A Time to gather

Tanya (she/her) is a Humanistic Integrative Psychotherapist, and considers herself to be an apprentice Death Doula. She supports people to reconnect with their own true nature and to come to terms with their limitations. This includes preparing for the end of life (practical and emotional process), managing crises, and questioning all that is. She reshaped her therapeutic approach after a non-ordinary state experience and now offers a uniquely styled treatment response to loss, trauma and life shocks. Overcoming her own anxiety, to non-belonging and low self-esteem (and its effects on her life) has been a rich and valued teacher. She is always grateful to receive the wisdom that comes from listening to her body. Recovering her own voice and using sound to access somatic healing played a huge role in her journey back to wholeness. Her business, A Time To Gather, ran events on the concept of Letting go to Grief using the artform of Lament. She is currently involved in a project to support the theme of commemoration and is passionate about contributing to death consciousness in Ireland


November 3 2022 @ 11:00 am
November 6 2022 @ 3:00 pm
€370 – €645
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